Married?
if i get married, then...

* i'm not free anymore..
* i can't flirt on others anymore..
* can't hang out with friends as frequent as before...
* i will have a lot of responsibilities...
* could our marriage be everlasting? will we get divorced?
* does he's the best for me??
* how if i get bored of him..?
* getting tied up for ur whole lifetime??
* and bla bla bla...

Marriage... is scary.. !!
R u scared? if someday u'll get tied up with someone..
U have to share each other... have to try to understand him... and a lot of other "have tos"...

To b honest, i'm scared...

in fact, marriage is complicated...
u cant just married by love...
mariage is not based on love only... there r a lot of things needed other than love itself.
wealthy... a good living... a good house... sounds materialistic?? exactly !!
imagine when u go shopping and u ask him for money n he said : "i have no money honey... but i have love.."
can u buy food with love?? or when ur husband came back from work n asked u what food did u cook today
and u answered "i cooked love" will it get ur stomach full?? eat that love !! heheh...

but yeah u need love too.. no doubt about it.
can we buy someone with money? how much? if it's possible, i want to buy Kwon Sang Woo.. lol
can u live happily if u live in a good luxurious house, eat glorious food, sleep in a comfortable bed,
but when u wake up u see someone u dont like beside u? and it happens for a lifetime... nope, i dont want it !!

but on the other hand, u dont need to worry about money... if u can work hard why not?? that's quite enough.
u can find money, but to be forced to like or love someone, can u accept that?? maybe u can, thru time...
but r u sure?? how long?? n in ur waiting for that feeling to grow what should u do? where do we have to throw our heart away? if i get married...

* i'm afraid i cant be the best for him.. can he be the best for me?
   it's ok though... nobody's perfect... WRONG !! everyone's perfect..
  what right do u have to call God's creation imperfect?? all humans r perfect
  the imperfectness was determined by our views..
  i love white skinned, tall, handsome boy who has a nice body, kind, caring and understanding...
  but if my man is dark skinned, has a so-so type face, a little fat and strict, does that mean he's not perfect??
  He's PERFECT... but we think he's imperfect since he's not our type... so what should we do??
  why dont we observe him further... what's his positive sides, he's smart? caring n loving?
  and what about the side that we dont like? he's dark skinned? why dont we try to like his dark skin..?
  he's not handsome? hey who will b handsome when they're getting old? NO ONE !! he's strict? good !
  that means he can scold me when i did wrong n he can lead me to stay on the right path. a little fat?
  so why?? he looks healthier and cuter that way ;))
  No one's imperfect... everyone's perfect. so before we decide what we demand from him,
  think, do i have meet his demand? u have?? sure?? who said that? u say that?? just go ask him :)

* afraid that i can stand of not getting bored of him. can he do the same?
  who said we wont get bored if everytime u wake up u see him, when u eat u see him,
  watch TV with him, maybe even take a bath with him (lol) and u see him when u're about to sleep too...
  why it has to b him again?? even u can get bored when u're still lover with him, but doesnt he bored of u?
  it;s just the same... bored is for sure. and u cant avoid that, maybe it's time to see how mature we are in
  facing the boredom, and how deep is our feelings to him...
  maybe it's fun and happy to see the one we love gets fatter, has wrinkles... gets older.. gets white hair...
  im sure he'll look better in my eyes... coz in the process we must have learned that we cant just see things
  from the outer side... but from the inside.. realize that he's the one who's there for me when i'm
  bored... sad... happy... and when i cry.. realize how he can accept me for what i am... and stay beside me
  for the rest of his life. is there someone who's better than him?? after all he's done for us?? if u say there is
  then u're cruel... heheh... know ur place !! when u get older u will have wrinkles too !! hehehe

* afraid that there will be someone who's better than him..
   do i have something better than anyone to him? everyone has their own positive sides.
   my man is handsome !! but my friend is more handsome !! so who's the most handsome??
   L-men of the year is handsome?? if he's handsome why they need to find another man every year??
   does that mean there's someone more handsome?? if u look for a better man, there will always be
   someone's better... even A LOT !! but how long do u intend to find a better man?
   when u choose someone to b ur partner, u know the consequences. we can see others r better than him..
   but can u see what makes u better than anyone around u?? everyone has their own uniqueness,
   that's why we cant look down on someone.. before we decided someone's better than our partner,
   think, r we the best person in this world?? i guess no....

* afraid of getting tied up to him for a lifetime..
   that we cant do whatever we wanted to do like back when we're still single...
   do u think u're the only one who think that way?? he's afraid of it too...
   he's afraid of getting tied up to u... but it's the consequence u got once u say " i do marry u..."
   that's responsibility...
   that's obligation...
   that's ur right....
   and it's valid for a lifetime... so u cant be an egoist person anymore...

* afraid that he cant understand me... can i always understand him???
   he cant completely understand us, thats for sure. there will be none who can 100% understands u.
   even ur parent who gave birth to u cant do that. maybe that's the art. trying to sync ur perceptions..
   opinions... likes.. and dislikes... it wil take a long time... if u dont want to wait for that long,
   just clone urself , they will understand u better, dont they?? if then, the consequence is only one :
   girls will become a lesbians n boys will become gays.. hehehe..
   we dont have to understand him for 100%.. just close to it is good coz he feels the same way as u..
 
* afraid that the marriage wouldnt last forever..
   well nothing lasts forever in this world.
   everlasting is never ! someday one of u will leave each other.. who's first and what's the cause,
   no one knows... but make it clear, u cant blame God when it happens. like all the artists said :
   "yeah... we divorced coz this is our fate.. he's not the one." heee? who decides he's not the one?
   u're the one who decide it !! have u put an effort on ur marriage?? everything's in God hands.. that's rite !
   but it depends on our effort too, doesnt it? if u dont try to find ur man, will he be there for u?
   if u dont protect ur marriage, will it last???
   in my opinion it depends on quality of ur relation. if u fight with him everytime u meet, that's suck...
   but if u're getting along everythime u meet him then that's good. we have to think how everytime he leaves,
   how we can smile whenever we remember him, not cry... everything will be gone... everyone will leave...
   it's how u deal and cope with it... 

im afraid of marriage...
im afraid i cant make him happy... so is he...
im afraid he's not the best... so is he...
im afraid of getting tied up... so is he...
im afraid to lose him.. so is he...

then why do u afraid? he's afraid too, so u have friend rite??
everything can be worked on...
everyone's perfect...
outer beauty fades away with time...
inner beauty grows as we age...
if we have the same feeling, assure urself that he can stay beside us as we stay beside him till the end...
there's nothing u have to be afraid of.... :)


P.S. thanks for the nice words geg.. ;)

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Married?
if i get married, then...

* i'm not free anymore..
* i can't flirt on others anymore..
* can't hang out with friends as frequent as before...
* i will have a lot of responsibilities...
* could our marriage be everlasting? will we get divorced?
* does he's the best for me??
* how if i get bored of him..?
* getting tied up for ur whole lifetime??
* and bla bla bla...

Marriage... is scary.. !!
R u scared? if someday u'll get tied up with someone..
U have to share each other... have to try to understand him... and a lot of other "have tos"...

To b honest, i'm scared...

in fact, marriage is complicated...
u cant just married by love...
mariage is not based on love only... there r a lot of things needed other than love itself.
wealthy... a good living... a good house... sounds materialistic?? exactly !!
imagine when u go shopping and u ask him for money n he said : "i have no money honey... but i have love.."
can u buy food with love?? or when ur husband came back from work n asked u what food did u cook today
and u answered "i cooked love" will it get ur stomach full?? eat that love !! heheh...

but yeah u need love too.. no doubt about it.
can we buy someone with money? how much? if it's possible, i want to buy Kwon Sang Woo.. lol
can u live happily if u live in a good luxurious house, eat glorious food, sleep in a comfortable bed,
but when u wake up u see someone u dont like beside u? and it happens for a lifetime... nope, i dont want it !!

but on the other hand, u dont need to worry about money... if u can work hard why not?? that's quite enough.
u can find money, but to be forced to like or love someone, can u accept that?? maybe u can, thru time...
but r u sure?? how long?? n in ur waiting for that feeling to grow what should u do? where do we have to throw our heart away? if i get married...

* i'm afraid i cant be the best for him.. can he be the best for me?
   it's ok though... nobody's perfect... WRONG !! everyone's perfect..
  what right do u have to call God's creation imperfect?? all humans r perfect
  the imperfectness was determined by our views..
  i love white skinned, tall, handsome boy who has a nice body, kind, caring and understanding...
  but if my man is dark skinned, has a so-so type face, a little fat and strict, does that mean he's not perfect??
  He's PERFECT... but we think he's imperfect since he's not our type... so what should we do??
  why dont we observe him further... what's his positive sides, he's smart? caring n loving?
  and what about the side that we dont like? he's dark skinned? why dont we try to like his dark skin..?
  he's not handsome? hey who will b handsome when they're getting old? NO ONE !! he's strict? good !
  that means he can scold me when i did wrong n he can lead me to stay on the right path. a little fat?
  so why?? he looks healthier and cuter that way ;))
  No one's imperfect... everyone's perfect. so before we decide what we demand from him,
  think, do i have meet his demand? u have?? sure?? who said that? u say that?? just go ask him :)

* afraid that i can stand of not getting bored of him. can he do the same?
  who said we wont get bored if everytime u wake up u see him, when u eat u see him,
  watch TV with him, maybe even take a bath with him (lol) and u see him when u're about to sleep too...
  why it has to b him again?? even u can get bored when u're still lover with him, but doesnt he bored of u?
  it;s just the same... bored is for sure. and u cant avoid that, maybe it's time to see how mature we are in
  facing the boredom, and how deep is our feelings to him...
  maybe it's fun and happy to see the one we love gets fatter, has wrinkles... gets older.. gets white hair...
  im sure he'll look better in my eyes... coz in the process we must have learned that we cant just see things
  from the outer side... but from the inside.. realize that he's the one who's there for me when i'm
  bored... sad... happy... and when i cry.. realize how he can accept me for what i am... and stay beside me
  for the rest of his life. is there someone who's better than him?? after all he's done for us?? if u say there is
  then u're cruel... heheh... know ur place !! when u get older u will have wrinkles too !! hehehe

* afraid that there will be someone who's better than him..
   do i have something better than anyone to him? everyone has their own positive sides.
   my man is handsome !! but my friend is more handsome !! so who's the most handsome??
   L-men of the year is handsome?? if he's handsome why they need to find another man every year??
   does that mean there's someone more handsome?? if u look for a better man, there will always be
   someone's better... even A LOT !! but how long do u intend to find a better man?
   when u choose someone to b ur partner, u know the consequences. we can see others r better than him..
   but can u see what makes u better than anyone around u?? everyone has their own uniqueness,
   that's why we cant look down on someone.. before we decided someone's better than our partner,
   think, r we the best person in this world?? i guess no....

* afraid of getting tied up to him for a lifetime..
   that we cant do whatever we wanted to do like back when we're still single...
   do u think u're the only one who think that way?? he's afraid of it too...
   he's afraid of getting tied up to u... but it's the consequence u got once u say " i do marry u..."
   that's responsibility...
   that's obligation...
   that's ur right....
   and it's valid for a lifetime... so u cant be an egoist person anymore...

* afraid that he cant understand me... can i always understand him???
   he cant completely understand us, thats for sure. there will be none who can 100% understands u.
   even ur parent who gave birth to u cant do that. maybe that's the art. trying to sync ur perceptions..
   opinions... likes.. and dislikes... it wil take a long time... if u dont want to wait for that long,
   just clone urself , they will understand u better, dont they?? if then, the consequence is only one :
   girls will become a lesbians n boys will become gays.. hehehe..
   we dont have to understand him for 100%.. just close to it is good coz he feels the same way as u..
 
* afraid that the marriage wouldnt last forever..
   well nothing lasts forever in this world.
   everlasting is never ! someday one of u will leave each other.. who's first and what's the cause,
   no one knows... but make it clear, u cant blame God when it happens. like all the artists said :
   "yeah... we divorced coz this is our fate.. he's not the one." heee? who decides he's not the one?
   u're the one who decide it !! have u put an effort on ur marriage?? everything's in God hands.. that's rite !
   but it depends on our effort too, doesnt it? if u dont try to find ur man, will he be there for u?
   if u dont protect ur marriage, will it last???
   in my opinion it depends on quality of ur relation. if u fight with him everytime u meet, that's suck...
   but if u're getting along everythime u meet him then that's good. we have to think how everytime he leaves,
   how we can smile whenever we remember him, not cry... everything will be gone... everyone will leave...
   it's how u deal and cope with it... 

im afraid of marriage...
im afraid i cant make him happy... so is he...
im afraid he's not the best... so is he...
im afraid of getting tied up... so is he...
im afraid to lose him.. so is he...

then why do u afraid? he's afraid too, so u have friend rite??
everything can be worked on...
everyone's perfect...
outer beauty fades away with time...
inner beauty grows as we age...
if we have the same feeling, assure urself that he can stay beside us as we stay beside him till the end...
there's nothing u have to be afraid of.... :)


P.S. thanks for the nice words geg.. ;)